Dear T.O. Boys, Have you had an epiphany about life? Are you skipping town to find yourself? Remember to communicate these unilateral changes to your partners as early as possible - they will be less likely to throw things at you that way.
Dear T.O. Boys, There are a number of surprises your partner might enjoy, depending on their level of comfort relinquishing control and being in strange situations. Being broken up with is never a good surprise. Have preliminary conversations to address issues, instead of blind siding them. Things will go so much better in the long term.
Dear T.O. Boys, Are you having a consistently poor dating experience? Chances are, it’s you, not them.
Dear T.O. Boys, Much of this game is telling stories. There are the ones we tell ourselves, the ones we tell our partners, and the ones we tell the world about ourselves and our partners. When you’re breaking up with your partner, be consistent about which stories you’re telling and when. It’d be awfully embarrassing and potentially painful if you got those plot lines crossed.
Dear T.O. Boys, To quote the wonderful Charlie Glickman “I believe the world will be better place if more men take it up the ass” - he isn’t wrong. You would learn a great deal about yourself and how you respond in vulnerable situations, would be better able to understand and empathize with your receptive partners, and you might even be happier, having found a wonderfully pleasurable experience.
Dear T.O. Boys, I’m quoting someone at Playground Conference directly, but there’s nothing I can add to this statement: Learning to have sex from watching porn is like learning to drive from watching a car chase. - Take from it what you will about your current, or future practice.
Dear T.O. Boys, Sure you can be completely honest with your partner about why you’re breaking up with them, but only if you were completely honest with them through your entire relationship. Otherwise, you’ll see more than a little two faced.
Dear T.O. Boys, The partners you are ending relationships with are the same partners you began the relationships with, albeit with more growth and life experience. Extend the same courtesy to them at the end that you did in the beginning.
Dear T.O. Boys, Remember when I said changing your relationship status on Facebook is a shitty way to break up with someone? Well, it doesn’t make a 7:30am text on Monday morning a better one. You really have to work on your timing.
Dear T.O. Boys, Unlike the beginnings of relationships, the endings tend not to be surprising. Keep an eye out for signs that things are starting to erode and either have the conversations required to correct the situation, or end things neatly and efficiently. You’ll be better off either way.
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